So if you remember during Christmas we were left out and not invited to any of the celebrations. Also, the grandmother was here visiting which we weren’t told about until two days before her arrival and pretty much on accident. During that time DH and I rarely went downstairs or out of our bedroom – which thinking about it isn’t really anything new. Well, over Christmas DH’s princess PA/Narc sister left him a gift under the tree. Her last gift was chocolates that expired a month later. I think they were given to her some time ago and regifted to DH. DH saw the gift by the tree but the ogre said nothing about it – he didn’t say anything like “hey you got a gift here”, nothing. So we let it sit. Honestly a gift from his sister he doesn’t really want. He can’t stand her, she is a rotten human being just like the ogre. So the ogre set the gift by the front door the last week and said nothing about it. Because he never says really anything except for demanding you do x, y or z.
So the family left last night and we noticed the sister took her gift back – LOL. It amused me. To be honest, we did open the gift up out of curiosity and rewrapped it. I don’t know if this food item was regifted or for whatever reason she broke the seal on it. Either way, very tacky. So likely she will need to find another recipient for her regifted x 2/3? gift.
DH felt bad though last night, the family knows he is here and there is not a place set for him at the table for the party and no one says a thing to him when he leaves to go back to work. I think he wanted someone to ask him why he wasn’t joining them, then he could say that he didn’t hear anything about the party and he wasn’t invited. (granted we figured out what was going on, but not the same) I think he is slowly realising he no longer has a family, the ogre has turned them all against him.
I remember when I came here and directly asked if his dad had mental issues (as my ex’s dad and mom did) he outright said no… now look at it. DH told me his family was very close and would never do anything like my ex PA/Narc DH family did, now look at them. I think he is slowly starting to realise there are some incongruencies in his thoughts about his family. Like I ask him if you knew you had to do whatever it took during the day to make sure you avoided your dad’s wrath or that he didn’t abuse your mom, didn’t you think there was an issue?? And you felt you couldn’t tell your family that your dad was abusing your disabled mom? There’s a problem too! Hello!
Anyway, we have our third counselling session tonight, hopefully that goes well. I know DH still keeps things from me. I’ve found him deleting messages from lady friends on a chat program the last week.